Friday, January 07, 2011
Friday, December 31, 2010
Currently reading the new book of aphorisms by Nassim Nicholas Taleb: 'The Bed of Procrustes'
Saturday, December 11, 2010
Wednesday, September 15, 2010
you’re sitting by the laundromat one day in late spring
the dew is resting on a patch of grass by entrance,
not quite a washing machine
but lovely to skim toes through.
You give a grin and hand me your change
remark on our luck it has not yet rained
sorting pinks, whites and baby blues
like sorting memories wearing wooden shoes
in lavender cotton with topstitched hems
like losing lovers and finding friends
this dear, looks like it needs a little bleach
don’t forget the softener honey
It’s right there—within reach.
Lying spread out on a dryer
feeling the steady churning vibrate
deep within our bones
look
there is the door for the six floor walk up across the street
wonder if anyone’s home
look at that lovely Klimt print
in window above the pizzeria
with that postmodern lamp
I daresay it’s from Ikea.
Perhaps they have hummels in their living room,
their pantry’s stocked with gin
Saul Bellow on their shelf,
And lime-green tiles in the kitchen
maybe we could drop in
and have coffee with these lovely folks
in their quaint Brooklyn residence
on Seventh Avenue
a nice conversation with strangers
feels so long overdue
No, you say
the lights are off.
They are surely gone.
Let’s grab our laundry
And head on home.
For some coffee and bagels and the sorting of socks.
you come from Harmony
in Nova Scotia
where the winter warms your mind
and ocean swirls around your pale legs
in these Maritimes
pulling Glasgow from your warm blanket in the eager sand
so cold for August and such a dark blue
in the shipwreck
some call your eyes
saffron and gingham cheerfully greet the corridors of Mendham
where your kitten clings to your frock
as you balance your groceries from one arm to the other
The loaf of bread falls gently to the pavement
Do you remember
remember St. Laurent and Rue Des Pins
on an autumn day
when you lost your friend
it came to an end
and you turned away
this is too precious
this is too precious to sacrifice for pain
you reach for the wooden spoon and taste the tomato
on your spine
memories of harmony
gardens by the sea
don’t fret
this is too precious
too precious to give up
feel it like the waves of Nova Scotia
swirling round your legs
This is too precious
Poetry 2006-2010 will be included in this new series....
First, a poem not written by me, but a favorite poem by my lovely and deceased grandmother, Ione Brooks Newgaard:
Sometimes we watch the days go by, wishing they could last.
And we can't help but wonder why time must fly so fast.
But we can keep in memory happy moments left behind.
And we can keep our special dreams of joys we hope to find.
And if we do the best we can through everyday live.
If we consider what we have as what we have to give.
If we will try to see some good in all that comes our way,
Then we will feel contentment at the end of every day.
For then we will have mastered that very special art of
growing rich in happiness while staying young at heart.
-Anonymous
Thursday, April 16, 2009
"the key is balance" (flickr: peacock balancing on a chair- by fishflix- Jeanette Lowe)
you know how its the quite interesting phenomenon how when reads the DSM-IV that one tends to automatically think "oh no, I have this psychiatric disorder! and this one! and this one! or maybe this one!"
well anyway, I've always had this bizarre but unsubstantiated suspicion that maybe 5% of me has Borderline Personality Disorder. Or at least when I read about it and its emotional lability, as well as inability to integrate polarities, I can relate to a certain degree.
So today I discovered Marsha Linehan and her "Dialectical Behavioral Therapy" which was specifically designed to treat individuals with BPD. In many ways similar to Cognitive Behavorial Therapy (a form of therapy I am very familiar with), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy" also integrates the Buddhist concept of mindfulness and the ancient-Greek derived (though also found in Hindu and Buddhist thought) concept of Dialectics.
I realized I didn't know very much about Dialectics and what they were.
Here is an interesting paragraph on the origin of Dialectics and how, in a way, it is applied in Dialectical Behavioral Therapy:
The term 'dialectical' is derived from classical philosophy. It refers to a form of argument in which an assertion is first made about a particular issue (the 'thesis'), the opposing position is then formulated (the 'antithesis' ) and finally a 'synthesis' is sought between the two extremes, embodying the valuable features of each position and resolving any contradictions between the two. This synthesis then acts as the thesis for the next cycle. In this way truth is seen as a process which develops over time in transactions between people. From this perspective there can be no statement representing absolute truth. Truth is approached as the middle way between extremes.
The dialectical approach to understanding and treatment of human problems is therefore non-dogmatic, open and has a systemic and transactional orientation. The dialectical viewpoint underlies the entire structure of therapy, the key dialectic being 'acceptance' on the one hand and 'change' on the other. Thus DBT includes specific techniques of acceptance and validation designed to counter the self-invalidation of the patient. These are balanced by techniques of problem solving to help her learn more adaptive ways of dealing with her difficulties and acquire the skills to do so. Dialectical strategies underlie all aspects of treatment to counter the extreme and rigid thinking encountered in these patients. The dialectical world view is apparent in the three pairs of 'dialectical dilemmas' already described, in the goals of therapy and in the attitudes and communication styles of the therapist which are to be described.The therapy is behavioural in that, without ignoring the past, it focuses on present behaviour and the current factors which are controlling that behaviour.
(source: http://www.mentalhelp.net/poc/view_doc.php?type=doc&id=1020)
I think regardless of mental health diagnoses, as humans we all tend to struggle with polarities, discrepancies in thought, dichotomies in feelings and concepts. According to famous BPD theoriest Otto Kernberg (who a friend of mine had the pleasure of meeting) there are two chief tasks in early childhood one must achieve to be functional adults. The first is differentiating oneself from the world and others. (psychic clarification of self and other)
The second is to "overcome splitting". This task requires one to be able to realize that not all things are put into black and white categories, such as "good" or "bad", "nice" or "mean", "red" or "blue" etc. For example, someone can see oneself as being both good and bad at the same. This task of "overcoming splitting" is the stage which Kernberg theorizes those with BPD never were able to fully acheive. In Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, Linehan uses this system of dialectics to approach the cognitive distortions and "splitting" of life into black and white categories and aids one in reaching a more nuanced, holistic and integrated perception of oneself, one's experiences, and the world around oneself. Avoiding either extreme, it brings to mind the Buddhist concept of the "middle path".
Or as a friend of mine likes to say, "the key is balance".
Friday, March 20, 2009
"The title of the play is 'Hedda Gabler'. My intention in giving it this
name was to indicate that Hedda, as a personality, is to be regarded
rather as her father's daughter than as her husband's wife.
It was not my desire to deal in this play with so-called problems.
What I principally wanted to do was to depict human beings,
human emotions, and human destinies, upon a groundwork of
certain of the social conditions and principles of
the present day."
So I went to see Mary-Louise Parker in Hedda Gabler on Tuesday.
A bit disappointed by the performances, but MLP was brilliant as
always, and I was stunned by the play's depiction of power dynamics,
what one will do when driven by such a desire for power,
and Hedda's "cowardly" inability to trascend her societal circumstances.
HEDDA.
[Looks up at him.] So I am in your power, Judge Brack.
You have me at your beck and call,
from this time forward.
BRACK.
[Whispers softly.] Dearest Hedda--
believe me--I shall not abuse my
advantage.
HEDDA.
I am in your power none the less.
Subject to your will and your
demands. A slave, a slave then!
[Rises impetuously.] No, I cannot
endure the thought of that! Never!
BRACK.
[Looks half-mockingly at her.] People
generally get used to the
inevitable.
HEDDA.
[Returns his look.] Yes, perhaps.
Thursday, March 12, 2009
mp3: John Lennon- God (link removed)
I don't believe in I-ching,